tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post2148064004157846384..comments2023-08-21T06:34:36.103-04:00Comments on Abby Stevens - The Tabby Catt: Sometimes it's too easy for things to be misconstruedAbby Stevenshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06630840834227330806noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-44372697681463827622010-09-28T11:38:30.794-04:002010-09-28T11:38:30.794-04:00THANK YOU to all of you! I was very nervous about ...THANK YOU to all of you! I was very nervous about writing this post - I was afraid people might take it the wrong way or think I was snobby, but I am relieved to find others feel the same way and are going through similar situations.<br /><br />Glenna, you really know how to compliment a girl. Thank you. :) I am honestly flattered.<br /><br />E. Elle - "Upper lower middle class" - I like that. I've never heard it before (shame on me, I love The Simpsons!), but that's a good way of putting it.<br /><br />Rachel - We get the "must be nice" comments, too. It's hard for me to keep my mouth shut when I hear it, because I don't want to get all up in their business and point out everything they've been spending their money on, or how we've saved and scraped, etc., so most of the time I just give a little smile and move on.<br /><br />My mom stayed home with my brother, sister and I, and I loved it. It was really nice always having Mama there when we got home from school and to see us off in the mornings.<br /><br />Remilda - Bedless! Lol. Word Verifications are hilarious sometimes.<br /><br />Pam - My husband and I are also the first members of our families to graduate from college, but luckily, we don't get comments from most of our family. Unfortunately, we did have one family member making comments, and it has really taken it's toll on the relationship. :( It is very frustrating, especially when the people criticizing (or asking for money, in your case) probably aren't good with money to begin with, and lending/giving them money is basically just throwing it down a black hole of poor spending.<br /><br />Sandy - Thank you so much. :) I agree with you - even though we aren't wealthy and we can't have all the super-cute clothes or newest technology or what have you, I want for nothing in terms of necessities, so I'm very grateful.Abby Stevenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06630840834227330806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-60446622618101975132010-09-22T17:32:27.305-04:002010-09-22T17:32:27.305-04:00Thank you for this lovely post. This is one of thi...Thank you for this lovely post. This is one of things that have been bothering me, and you've said it so much better than I ever could. My family is in the working class, and everything that we do have came at the expense of other things that we couldn't justify buying. But I feel that I'm fortunate, because though the most luxurious things I treat myself to are books, I'm not in want to things, especially things I don't need.<br /><br />I think you've put it perfectly: "If you want one thing, sometimes you have to give another up."<br /><br />People just differ on what they elect to give up.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05360613352088629589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-10715885184569125432010-09-22T10:38:15.718-04:002010-09-22T10:38:15.718-04:00Wow, that was deep. And I think it's a shame t...Wow, that was deep. And I think it's a shame that you had to even write this post. I don't think that you have to defend the fact that you're living comfortably. I'm in the same situation. My cousin and I are the first members of our family to get a college education and have careers. She's a teacher, and I'm a school counselor--so we're not exactly rolling in the dough. However, our family thinks we must always have money to spare because we have contracts--and sometimes get salty when we can't loan money, or buy expensive gifts. The whole thing is just frustrating.Pam Harrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09872183610393667619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-22487658539268715392010-09-21T20:50:09.425-04:002010-09-21T20:50:09.425-04:00I totally agree with E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G you said!...I totally agree with E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G you said! So much truth in this post. I'm going to stop now because people like you described make me angry (and that's only because I know too many of them), and I'll go into an unnecessary rant. <br /><br />Kudos to you for having your priorities straight! Thanks for the wonderful post. <br /><br />I usually don't do this, but I think it's hilarious and such an odd coincidence that my verification word is: bedless. lol, one of those moments that deserves to be in a book.Remilda Graystonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13649300813621588790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-42102141847228020132010-09-21T11:47:15.515-04:002010-09-21T11:47:15.515-04:00Excellent post, Abby! What you wrote on your Faceb...Excellent post, Abby! What you wrote on your Facebook page describes me perfectly - it's like I could have written it. <br /><br />I was lucky enough to have grown up in the upper middle class. As far as I remember, we never lacked anything I wanted. We were able to travel (not extensively, but fairly often), we had the fancy-pants expensive cable package and new clothes and whatnot. <br /><br />BUT, It came at a cost - my mom worked out of the home (which, I know is normal these days, but still, tax season was rough). That is something my husband and I decide before we were even married would not be the case in our house. So, since the day we were married, we have sacrificed some of the "finer things" to save for me to be able to stay home (and, luckily, I was able to do it early to write!). We almost never see movies in theatres or go out to eat, I don't ever buy clothes that aren't on clearance. Like you, we don't use smartphones or have cable. We get by on the bare minimum. <br /><br />And because we do that, I can stay home to write (and soon, to mom :) ) and we can occasionally afford something fun. We got a new car recently and have already gotten snide comments about how it "must be nice" to be able to afford it. Well, we could afford it because we skimp in other aspects of life and drove a totalled (seriously, it was SUPER pretty :) ) car for YEARS to save for a new one. <br /><br />Okay...I am ranting now, and my comment is almost as long as your original post. Kudos to you for writing this - it is great.Rachel Batemanhttp://rachelbateman.com/blah-gnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-69874616558553470402010-09-21T11:29:45.231-04:002010-09-21T11:29:45.231-04:00I applaud you.
I grew up with the bare essentials...I applaud you.<br /><br />I grew up with the bare essentials. As I got older and my mom started working outside the home, we got to have a little more but we are - and always have been - what Homer Simpson calls "upper lower middle class." I'm okay with that.<br /><br />I never wanted for anything but I've also learned the value of a dollar. I'd rather save my hard-earned money to make one of my lifelong dreams come true than spend it on a cell phone or TV I don't need. I'm mocked for it but it's my choice. I don't mock others' choices.<br /><br />Great post, Abby. Thanks for sharing. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560601732139136978.post-24081992706042112102010-09-21T10:00:11.350-04:002010-09-21T10:00:11.350-04:00Maybe it's because I just finished watching ye...Maybe it's because I just finished watching yesterday's VlogBrothers video, but I have found one more author you remind me of. In addition to JKR, your writing reminds me of John Green. You can touch on heavy subjects and keep it light, and you also manage to share strong insights without ever getting on a pulpit. <br /><br /><i>Two, I grew up very humbly, and to be called rich is an insult to me</i> <- I never realized it, but I definately agree. Hmm.Glenna https://www.blogger.com/profile/07291697775716513457noreply@blogger.com